Is a Life Coach Right For You?
August 26, 2008
How often do you find yourself asking advice from a person that has never achieved the things you want? Have you found yourself wondering if the person you are asking for advice is truly objective? For example, asking your mother if you should quit your job to start your own business. This might bring a myriad of new reasons NOT to do this new (if not somewhat risky) endeavor. Not because she doesn’t want you to be successful and independent, but because she has her own fears about what being an entrepreneur really means. A life coach will not make your decisions for you. What they will do is make you aware of the multitude of options in front of you, motivate you to make the desired changes in your life and support you in your journey from where you are now to where you want to be. A coach’s job is to point out your blind spots, to have you see what you aren’t currently able to see.
Life coaching is not counseling or psychotherapy. The latter two are about finding emotional resolution to problems, present or past. Life coaching is about changing your behavior; there is a small amount of reflection of past circumstances and lots of focus on the future. It is about designing and taking action on your future and keeping momentum when the usual fears rear their ugly heads. Your coach will not spend much time discussing with you how you feel, although they will challenge the negative beliefs that are holding you back, in order that you may discard them and embrace your unlimited potential.
Life coaching generally takes the form of regular, one-to-one sessions of an hour or so, either face to face or over the telephone. The coach will help you to focus your goals and to devise small steps towards meeting them. The coach will also hold you accountable for your progress.
Have you always wanted to start your own business? Maybe you want to travel extensively or even try skydiving? Do you want to get fit, learn new skills, or expand your social circle? If so, what is preventing you from doing it? A life coach can help erode your fears, assist you in deciding what you truly desire, and build your confidence to help you to live the life you’ve always dreamed of.
Life coaching is not the answer for everybody. If you have experienced trauma or had a very unhappy or frightening childhood, life coaching will probably not be of use to you until you have worked through your issues with a psychotherapist. Ask yourself how much is it costing you NOT to have your goals and dreams realized? Ultimately, the expense of a coach is far less than the cost of the years you may waste doing the same ineffective things over and again. If you have wanted something, and tried all that you know or can think of to achieve it with no real lasting success, perhaps you should consider coaching. If your problems are more in the realms of not being able to get yourself organized, being too busy to think about what you really want out of life or always giving “should” priority over “want to”, life coaching can be of limitless value to you.
You can find a life coach to give your life a general shake-up or to specialize in a specific area. You can have coaching to help with your work, coaching to help you land the job you’ve always wanted, coaching of through a big change such as divorce, coaching to inspire and motivate you to make the most of your life - any, all or a mixture of these.
It’s not difficult to find yourself a life coach by searching the internet. It doesn’t matter if there isn’t one in your area, because you can always have your coaching on the telephone. Ask yourself how much is it costing you NOT to have your goals and dreams realized? Ultimately, the expense of a coach is far less than the cost of the years you may waste doing the same ineffective things over and again. If you have really wanted something, and tried all that you know or can think of to achieve it with no real lasting success, perhaps you should consider coaching. Most coaches will offer a free introductory meeting during which you can decide whether life coaching is for you and whether you like this coach’s style. So you’ve got nothing to lose - what are you waiting for?
Define-Success
August 6, 2008
Have you ever asked yourself why you want to succeed online?
If not, … allow me to ask you …
So, … why do you want to succeed online?
Do you have e reason for it? Do you clearly know what the reason is?
Do you think other people are succeeding online? Are they more successful than you are? Are you more successful than them? Why?
Are you currently succeeding online? Do you feel successful? How do YOU define success in general?
These questions are very important questions in your journey to online success. The nature of your answer to these questions would significantly impact your mission.
We all have a pre-programmed definition of success. We all know what will make us successful in other people’s eyes and what will personally make us feel successful. We have needs, wishes, wants and cravings for the results we desire.
But only you know what’s important for you and what would drive you to achieve your vision of success, whether online or offline. You’re the only one who can unlock the door to your hidden treasure of desires. Desires so powerful that would literally force you out of your comfort zone to find the success you seek.
What are you doing it for? What’s in it for you?
Few years back, I joined a network marketing company that was doing business the *old way* of calling people on the phone, setting a meeting and presenting the prospects with a business opportunity. That was one of my best experiences ever.
I had an opportunity to interact with hundreds of different people from different walks of life. Different educational background, different culture, different life circumstances, different age, different business background ….
The most amazing thing was that they all had a different vision of success. They all had a different understanding of what success was and what it meant to them.
While going through the course of offering the business opportunity, some of the people were telling me that they were doing just fine with their life as it was. Even though I was offering them a business opportunity that would’ve given them results far beyond their wildest dreams, they were declining the offer with a comment that they were already successful in what they were doing and they were not looking for more in their life.
Other people would tell me that they were already working on achieving the results that they were striving for. My business opportunity did not offer the types of results that they wanted to accomplish. And others would simply take the opportunity since they had no other vehicle to take them to their desired results.
In general, I did not meet two people with same aspirations. Everyone wanted to be successful in his or her own unique way — successful in regards to other people and successful in regards to themselves.
So, the question I would like to ask you is: “Why do you want to achieve online success and what are you doing it for?”
Is there something you desire to have as a result of you becoming successful online? It’s very important to define your desired outcome - crisp and clear - as a result of you becoming a successful online entrepreneur. That would become your map. That would give you a direction to follow.
What do you want to have and who do you want to become as a result of you becoming successful with your online venture?
By having that fact defined, your success journey would then consist of finding the right sources to get you there as opposed to jumping onto every train that passes by with a hope that one of them would take you to your success.
You could use your list of defined results that you want to accomplish as an evaluation method when looking at different business opportunities or products. Ask yourself, could the business opportunity or even a product under your consideration, deliver most or all of your desired results?
In today’s environment of ever changing technology and evolving life complexity, we don’t have much time in our hands. Do we?
The “time” is slowly but surely becoming one of the most valuable commodities. The fact of knowing what you want to accomplish with your online venture would help you grasp the success you seek in the shortest time possible and help you understand the purpose of your mission.
I go in great detail on this subject in my book “Define Your Success.”
